Hmm... the favorite...as long as there is no talking....the subtle mind. I have never just fallen asleep like that...for no reason...it still sparks laughter in those that witnessed this event! Even for me!
I have many things that I keep tucked in my hat that i will get out on that down time. Who am I trying to kid? Yeah I have no real down time, the phone rings that can change my whole afternoon or week, even a month...depending on what that call reveals.
The loving kindness as well works well...when they do not talk...lol..but I am partial to the spirit. I still give more than is in the account sometimes...but it is always returned in many other ways...Giving to me is a way that we can show and prove that there are many different kinds of love out there that allows us to show compassion to others. Feel bad that you see someone with a flat tire...stop and ask you need some help? or maybe a phone call to a service that can assist you...in case your family can not make it here to help.
Despite everything that I have endured this year, I still willingly give up my friday nights to potentially spend with someone I have never met. I met them, sometimes on the worst day of their life so far. Giving information to help them in the next 24-72 hours. That can make a difference of the lifetime. What is this? I volunteer for victims of sexual assaults. This is not a pretty thing...this is not something that others are comfortable with...its violence...against men and women....but through the compassion and love...storing my anger away to show family that we are here for this loved one here...they need you here not in jail...know what storms are coming....give the love...and you get so much more in return. I could give stats on things...how it works with and without a advocate there in the most critical hour...but that is not what this is about...this is about showing the love to this person I have never met...let me give you comfort, compassion, and understanding now...pay it forward to others...give til it hurts sometimes...but allow that person to feel the need of being special, loved, and forgiven....we need this in own lives...the personal touch we put on a gift...a text to make a friend laugh...let them share it with someone you may not know...you are still touching others...and showing love...love without boundaries...
sorry about the rambles...but it is something to think about...we all touch each other...whether it is physical or not...tolerance is nice but acceptance is needed...
Thanks for listening to the ramblings of the mad woman! have an awesome week
Jeni, all I can say is wow. I am in awe of the person you are and at the great things, you do for people. As I read your post I to found that I enjoyed the same exercises that you did. As subtle mind was, the only one I really felt comfortable with and the loving-kindness I felt was something that I could do to make my life better while making the lives of the people that I encounter better. Again nothing like you. I too am a very busy person and felt that I was almost wasting my time or had other things on my mind with all the other exercises. Again, I feel that this is what could be wrong with our society because we don’t take the time to love each other or really see the big picture and enjoy life. Thank you for the volunteer work that you do, whether you think so or not you are changing lives and helping people in their darkest hours. Sam
ReplyDeleteSam,
DeleteNo need for the wow factor there...its just what I do. I try my best to find the good in others...sometimes that is a very difficult thing to do ...but I do try..in some circumstances I lose respect for that person...and I think that is worse than have bad feeling or even to use the word hate...because if have no respect for you then I dont have much else for you either...I have lost respect for a few,,,and I am proud to say that...
We all touch the path of life...and we cross over one another each and every day..from the little ladies at the store..to that one that has to be first off the line at the light...that just puts us in mood that is foul as well...this only adds to our stress that is turned around and given to those that we love...is that really fair to them?
Just a thought...Have a great week!
Jeni
Hi Jeni,
ReplyDeleteI am in awe of what you do! I too know about giving love to strangers and how powerful that can be. But, you truly have a gift and I am sure that you have touched so many lives in a positive way. They say that those who work with people in crisis, are continually in stress themselves. It sounds al though you have found a way to function well and give to others too. I like the loving-kindness exercise too. I laughed when you said, if they don't talk! I can picture that myself at times.
Thank you for what you do and take care,
Robin
Robin,
DeleteI do what I do because there is a need for it...that is it. I am under a decent amount of stress, but isn't everyone at some point?
When I am trying to relax...the last thing I want to do is listen to people talk. One of my pet peeves I suppose...I enjoy the music..I understand the directions...ect..ect...but that is why I participated with the exercise...and then added my music in the other sessions...
Thanks for the compliment....
Jeni
I absolutely loved your blog. I think what you do is absolutely amazing, and I am sure many people look up to you for what you do. I can imagine at times you have to bottle your anger as you listen to the stories or just hear the man or woman cry about what happened.
ReplyDeleteI will have to agree with you about the not talking part of the exercises. It bothered me the first couple times I listened to the exercises. As soon as I would get my mind settled... Bam the man or woman was talking again and would throw me off the track my mind was going. It definitely takes some training to get over that.
I also agree with you about how we all touch each other whether physically or not. Sometimes it is the little things that make us feel the best. I have a good friend who is leaving in a month to Japan and she has to leave her 8 month old for an entire year. I can only imagine how she feels, and I try to give her uplifting thought every day just to take the edge off. Once she leaves I'll have to find a way to help ease her mind about things. She knows she doing it for the good of her family, but it is still hard especially since she tried so hard to have a baby. We just need to remember the little things can go a long way.
Tiffani,
DeleteThanks for that...I was in a mood last night but there were some things that just needed to be put out there.... I was just angered by some of the things that I had seen and been subject to ..and the questions that were required of us this week really put it to motion...
I do what I do because there is a need...that is all...I look at it as a calm that I can bring to others...and that whether we know it or not we all touch each other...in some way...that if we take this thought with us through out the day...how many lives could we improve...I have a dear friend that was having a terrible run of things....she was at work...and her day was progressively getting worse...I had managed an early day (quite rare for me)...I stopped and picked up lunch for myself...not something I do on a regular basis...I was thinking of her more so than normal...but I still decided to go home and have my lunch....well I decided on a different direction to go home....i was approaching her street....and the store where she worked...and for some reason I turned and went over...and went in to see her...to see if I could get her a little something to eat...or just give her a smile....turns out that she was ready to throw in the towel that day..and was planning on walking out into traffic....but that event changed just because I dropped in to see her and spend some time with her...showed that she was loved and cherished as my wonderful and dear friend...she is doing much better and we have busy lives but always manage to talk to each other...even though it may only be a text...or I leave a note on her car, or her door....
I cant imagine leaving my daughter for a year...she and I are very close...from the time she was a baby...we had our share of growing problems..but in the end...we have the respect for each other...I would find ways to plant the little things...keeping pictures, or just a little note in the mail that gives an unexpected smile...good luck with your endeavors!
jeni