I know that the instruction is necessary but its still annoying....
"One cannot lead another where one has not gone himself"
If you have not had the experience to some degree then you cannot give assistance to others who are wanting or needing to travel.....If you have visited a grand sight...and I have never seen it...I cannot give any thoughts or experiences that is needed....I cannot see this if I have not been there myself.
If I ask someone to engage in mediation...I need to have done the exercise myself...if I have not...then I cannot give the instruction or assist in the control of the emotions that may surface.
I need to be able to give guidance in a very difficult time in a families journey. If my spirit is damaged, in need of healing, or rest I cannot give them the comfort they need to proceed in the next step of grieving and eventual healing from the loss of the family member....If I am not of sound mind...how can give a sound calm to the storm? It is not possible....I know that my mind, heart, and spirit are tired...but never tired enough to guide others to an understanding of the loved ones passing, their love that was witnessed in the ones that were left behind....I do this because I have had to do the same to myself...my dad was a very kind, compassionate, gentle man...that has helped me even after I lost his physical presence....he is always with me...always giving me new ways to express to others that their love remains even after their bodies have left....
Hi Jeni,
ReplyDeleteGreat insight! Thanks for sharing your relationship with your dad. I felt that the exercise this week really focused on reflecting on someone that you admire and learning from them so that you can spread it to others as well. It is always refreshing to me to gain knowledge and wisdom from others and share the lessons that you have learned in life. You should never pass up the chance to better yourself and in return, improving the world we live in, giving you the ability to leave the world a better place than how you found it.
Jacqui
Jacqui,
DeleteOh if people saw us together they would think we had escaped from some mental hospital of some sort! But we were the jokers in our family...now it is left up to me and my daughter....I am saddened (sometimes) that my mother does not share in our humor... that is ok...we do...my husband has that same flare...I cry thinking about him...I should be able to call him and tell him that you know what...I just wanted to say I love you...and hang up...or we leave messages on the voice mail...and if you did not know us...we were fresh escapees!!
I know that I try my best but we are own worst critic when it comes to it...always thinking of ways that we could have done better....not allowed ourselves back in that old rut again...
I find myself giving to others...and trying my best to keep things in a positive direction...teaching my daughter now the things i am learning here will touch so many lives..that i have already left the world a better place than I found it...
Hello Jeni,
ReplyDeleteI liked reading your experience on this weeks exercise. I had a little difficulty, but not so much because of the voice behind it (although, I do find it frustrating when the iPad times out - need to change the setting for these exercises). For me, it was somewhat about the focus on the person. I really missed the person that came to mind. I admired them and respected them. I felt loved by them. I made me feel better just reconnecting with them. For me though, it was different because I didn't spend my entire life knowing this person (it was my father in law) and while I felt loved by them, I was not overly close with them. I think I came away from the exercise feeling better because I reconnected more than I did because I felt like one with them. Maybe it will go better if I find myself a different Asclepius instead.
A couple years ago, I had a similar experience; although I wasn't actually doing this exercise. It was uplifting and I felt loved and connected from a loved one I missed so dearly (my Grandma). They probably would have been a better choice for my Asclepius or inner self. Maybe I will try thinking of them next time.
I think your comments on the subject of the statement are right on. If we are not familiar with the subject of healing for a specific need then we can't be helpful to others. We need to have knowledge and/or experience with the treatments that should be followed so we can help and explain the benefits or treatments. Same is true for experiences of life. If we have not experienced or lived it, then we are not going to be the best supporters.
I hope you have a great week.
Elicia
Hey Jeni,
ReplyDeleteYour father sounds like a wonderful man. Your are very blessed to have had him as a father. I don't know if using the meditation exercise opened my consciousness to what my mother had taught me of strengthened a connection which I have always had with her even across the great divide. I think its amazing what you do my heart goes out to you. It is true, if we are not implementing what we teach to others in our own lives, then why even teach it as it is only as deep as a sheet of paper and its gravity is that of a feather and has no actual meaning. The old term of "practice of what we preach" definitely applies here. Thank you for your heartfull sharing.
Aaron
Aaron,
DeleteThe relationship that me and my dad shared baffled most people..but we enjoyed life...and sharing what ever we could when ever we could. There are others that still look at me and in a heart beat ...oh your HIS daughter...and of course i reply....yes I am!
I did not chose this profession, it chose me. I am able to hear things that many are not able to...I tell families that i hear the unspoken words that are there...when they ask....not many do..just that I do my job well and the family member is taken care of...what they do not see is that I am there with them as well...helping them on their journey as well..but that is my job...assisting and helping others....in transition....
Practice what you preach...if you dont...then there is no reason to preach it to begin with!
Beautiful story Jeni! I really struggled this week because for whatever reason the exercise made me too emotional. I wanted to work through the emotions, but just couldn't bring myself to do it. I'm not sure I will ever get to a point with meditation where I feel comfortable encouraging others to do it. I would never discourage it, but I'm beginning to think it's something I will never master.
ReplyDeleteGina it takes time and practice...as i sit here reading comments my eyes are in tears...it will never be something that fully embrace the way I lost my dad...we were quite the pair...lol..through the tears I see him looking at me and telling me.....why are you still crying? I would try to explain that my heart hurts...and I miss him...the other exercises were different..and there are some that I really do not like to do...with that other...music...and talking...but my dad...what an awesome man to have been around...he was a gift that I treasure everyday...
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